Make a sign that says " Self sacrifice sucks" and tape it to your bathroom mirror. Take care of yourself first or you won't be of any help to anybody, including yourself! That's my two cents....... of course, I have to stay away from people to keep my boundaries strong....... How's about 2 lists: 1) can do, 2)can't do. With a copy for them and a copy for you.? Best 2U.