Hi folks,

I guess we are all on the same wavelength here - people pleasing is a downer!

I've done all this as well, and all you get back is more work, more errands to do, more lifts to give etc etc. I once asked myself: would these people do all this for me? Of course they wouldn't. Not a chance.

Sometimes it's good practise to listen to how other people say no, and it's pretty final I can tell you. Often they don't even tack an excuse onto the 'NO' as that invites more talking. They just say 'NO' - it's easier for them.

'NO' is one of the most self affirming and self empowering statements in human language. I think that we should use it advisedly, but we should certainly be able to use it. Without the ability to say 'NO' life can become hellish.

Go for it!

Cheers, M