you are so right Ryask. i do feel like it would be a failure. this is my second marriage too. And I've worked very hard to have this 'pretty on the outside' life. i have a good job and make a decent amount of money and now the husband and the house. i'd finally felt like I'd made it. When called my husband on saying something mean last weekend he said he couldn't help it....it just comes out, which at 41 isn't an excuse anymore. i am petrified to do this....to have that conversation. I have said these things before and he tells me he doesn't want to make me cry and we should separate which makes me cry more and in the end he feels bad and comes back and says he will try....
I've been thinking all day that i do need to talk to him. i will do it. i have to do it. i can't live like this.