Waiting is hard work! Sometimes waiting is harder work than actually doing something....well, waiting is doing something all right, but it doesn't actually always feel like things are getting done!
I have to differ with you on one thing......about the T not having a bond with us, even though we have a bond with them. Well, having a bond with someone is not a one-sided thing! A bond signifies that 2 are bound together......and T and client are bound together in a therapeutic relationship. The thing about this sort of bond that is so frustrating, difficult to deal with, hard to fully comprehend, for so many of us, is that it is not an equal bond! However, it is a bond on both sides.....T and us......what is different are the emotions and the depth and intensity of them.
I know what you mean, I think, though......the feeling of being attached to T, and T is not attached to you as you are attached to her. This would be true, yes.......but there is still the bond of the therapeutic relationship that is a 2-sided thing. Guess I'm just thinking of the bond and the attachment as different things......probably others have different (and perhaps better!) thoughts/perceptions of this than do I.