i mean, i think i'm a pretty open person. i'm friends with my ex of 10 years, but it's a real friendship where we talk about dating and life very openly and i really want him to find someone to be happy with. we split up over 6 years ago. with my new bf and his ex - i feel like they're not friends the same way. even if it's platonic, there's some other expectations happening there and she wants to get back together very much.

i do believe that he made efforts to start putting things in the past - like taking all the photos down, throwing stuff away, etc. i don't know for a fact that he hasn't been in touch with her. but his reaction was so extreme that it was hard to believe that it was true. like it felt like ok now suddenly he wants a future together, suddenly i'm the only one for him blabhlahblah, when i know what it's like coming out of a long relationship. i wished that he was more real with me about it.

i accept my responsibility for being a jerk, but i didn't think or want to stay together until i changed my mind at the end. i'm still not 100% on board, but i am open to try. he said he wanted to get back with me, but i'm thinking he's changing his mind because it's been too much work. but i think that w/o me leaving, he wouldn't even be dealing with putting his past to rest.

do you think is a not worth the energy, like it's a losing situation? i really fear investing myself in something that is stamped for failure. its almost like i'd rather run out and be on my own than be in something this messed up so early on. but i get sucked in because i fell in love, we have fun together, etc.