(((whenwillitend))) - I'm sorry you're going through stress with your son. This is my 2nd time writing this post but somehow it didn't go through. I'm the mom of a 9 and 13 yr old and my girls have both experienced meltdowns, more so when they were younger. I realize since your son's in therapy, your situation might be worse but I just wanted you to know I have been in your shoes, from the way you describe the meltdown.

I remember when my oldest was younger, she wanted a whole bag of candy canes and I wanted a smaller amount -this resulted in a major tantrum. I know now I should have left the store, but I needed food lol, so she cried and ranted the whole shopping trip. I laugh at it now but it wasn't funny at the time. I've also had my seat kicked numerous times.

I think you're doing everything right in not giving in and just remember to be consistent. It used to help me by making a deal - if my child is good the whole trip, then she would get a reward. Make sure when you're shopping that he's not hungry - they're more moody when they're hungry. I also realize now, it's virtually impossible to negotiate wih a child who's having a meltdown and it's best not to even talk to them when they're ranting - they can't even absorb a word we're saying. It's better to give the consequences and ignore the yelling/crying. I know it hurts when he says those hateful things but I doubt he really means it and yes I've heard those words too. I just wanted you to know you're not alone with having a misbehaving child and I hope it gets better for you and your son.