Thank you, Michah, for this thoughtful essay on navigating the erroneous assumptions of others and the travails of parenthood--it was intensely interesting to read. I appreciate your perspective that the experience of parenthood isn't all moonbeams and rainbows, nor should it be. I also appreciate your candor and frank ability to confront this in yourself and the experience, and I am sure that only serves to enhance it for you and your son. I believe more people feel as you, but they dismiss their thoughts as "bad" or simply do not share them with others. That expectation of keeping one's misgivings or dislike of aspects of parenthood to oneself is where people find their ire with you, because I am sure they may have their own version of what you've expressed, but take exception that you are able to be more forthcoming about it.

This was a fascinating and thought-provoking read. Thank you again for sharing it. I have no doubt of the love you have for your son, and had you declared to me in conversation what you've expressed here, believe me, it would have only lead to further talk. I love the idea of parenthood, but not to the point of deification. Someone who has the strength and forethought to question and wrestle with as much as you have in terms of the station only enriches their parental perspective and abilities, in my opinion.

All the best to you.