Hi Squiggle, I'm coming kind of late to your thread here, responding to something you wrote many replies ago:
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Originally Posted by Squiggle328
You know what? I get so irritated that we are supposed to go into therapy and NOT have feelings for our therapist.
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Did someone actually say that? I don't remember it coming up, either way, when I was in therapy myself. Right around that time, though, I was reading some things by Freud for school. He made a big point, over and over, that the patient always
would come to experience feelings toward the analyst -- transference, he called it -- and that resolving these feelings (and where they were coming from) was what the whole therapy (psychoanalysis, in this case) was mostly about.
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Therapists are trained to sit there with a 'poker face'. They are trained not to be emotional, but to be the rock that we can lean on. The one person that helps us problem solve and put our lives back together.
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I figured that was mostly so that your therapy would be about your issues, not the therapist's. If therapists were to say things to their clients like, "How could you hurt me by telling me that?!" the client would learn more about avoiding the therapist's issues than about dealing effectively with their own. It's quite likely that at some time in your life you had to tie yourself in knots to avoid upsetting someone else. In that case, therapy would be about allowing you to untie yourself and become who
you are.
From here (a safe distance away
) it sounds as if you're right on track and doing just fine for where you are.