D - thanks for your insight and I agree, we choose our roles in life, especially with our families. Sometimes the circumstances change and the chosen roles need to adapt. I guess that's where I'm at right now...begging my husband for help because the circumstances we were so accustomed to have changed and I can't do this by myself!

T - thanks for the support, someone suggested writing my husband a letter, so he can't avoid my words...maybe I'll give that a try