And thank you for your feedback. Yes, some everyday injustices are deal-with-able, but some aren't, like hitting every red light when you're running late, or your appointment got cancelled at the last minute because of somebody else's mistake. Any time I get messed up, and it's somebody else's fault entirely, I tend to see red. Not helpful.

There are also major events that we have no control over. Right now a family friend is going through a deep personal tragedy. I can't do anything to help, except to show my support. Here, I'll say only that someone who ought to be in jail is not, I don't know why justice isn't being done, but I can't do anything about it and neither can the family friend. Except that we can voice our disapproval with the system--maybe somehow that can bring about change. It's this type of thing, if I let myself stew, I could really flip out over.

Lessons can be learned from the past. I sometimes see myself as an experiment of life. I tend to think I was put on earth for bad things to happen to, so that society will see them happen and think, "That's bad. Let's not let it happen again." Thus changes are made. It's akin to the fact that I was the oldest child, and therefore the one my parents made the most mistakes on, and corrected them on later children. Very often, I find myself the victim of a bad system, and because something happened to me that shouldn't have, a policy is changed, and someone else who comes along after me is spared. The trouble is, then I get to thinking, why do *I* have to be the ground-breaker? Why can't I be the one who comes along later and benefits by what someone else went through? But the truth is, I am. Bad things happen to everybody, not just me. And that's what I have to remind myself.

As for ruminating on the past, I am reminded of the crude American proverb, "The more you stir up (um, waste material), the more it stinks."