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Feb 14, 2011, 07:19 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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Here's a thought....
If the phone is in your name, and if you are paying the bill....
SHUT IT OFF!!! Cancel his phone line and stop enabling him with this unhealthy, un-therapeutic relationship. This will put him in the position to have to get his own phone and pay for it, at least, if he wants to be able to communicate with this so called therapist.
One important lesson I have learned, and am still learning, in my recovery is that I cannot control someone else's behavior. I can only control and master my own. I used to hate hearing that, but the further I get into treatment the more I know it's the truth!!
I think it's good that you are getting your own therapy. It will help you come to terms with where the relationship stands and help you move forward in a healthier way, as opposed to being stuck in an unhealthy and dead-end relationship. Your husband is making it quite clear that you are no longer his focus.
Take your power back. Make yourself the priority!! 
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