wow. I think you may have misunderstood amandalouise's post. I didn't read it as 'blaming it on being a teenager' at all. but rather saying 'it's not necessarily DID'. more of a 'not enough information'... but rather that these things you are sharing could be attributed to any number of 'mental or physical health problems'. health problems - whether mental or physical - are part of life but not necessarily 'normal'.

yes, identity establishment IS indeed something that is normal for a 14yo to be going through, but that's not a way of discounting what you have shared. it's merely another thing to factor in. she was merely pointing out that at 14 we don't have that well established sense of self that we are supposed to have as adults. does that make sense?

anyhow. I wish you the best in getting the help you need. if you really are serious about wanting help, then you do NEED to have a discussion with your parents. at your age, you don't really have access to help on your own. if your parents won't at least take you to see a doctor (and you CAN address mental health concerns with your regular doctor. they can refer you for psychiatric treatment), then you may need to talk to another family member or maybe try to get in touch with social services to see if they can help.

hang in there.