My wife of 30+ years spent 1 week of 4 (pre-menopause) a raving *****. I put up with it as it was like she had a multiple personality and the other one was quite lovable. Now (post-menopause) the ***** side had vanished... until the past few months, when it has again reared its ugly head.

It has become too much to put up with. I cannot go anywhere with her that she does not pitch a fit if she does not get her way. Today, while helping do some handyman work at my son's, she could not wait 30 minutes for me to finish and insisted my daughter in law bundle up the baby and drive her home 20 miles in the rush hour traffic. After asking my d-in-law to leave her house keys so I could lock up, as I would be leaving before she returned, my wife relented and stayed until I finished up about 20 minutes later.

That is just one episode. In general, she acts like a spoiled, petulant 5 year old when things don't go just as she pleases.

I am at a point in my life where enduring a toxic personality day after day is more than I am willing to accommodate.

I told her about 30 minutes ago that I was through. I would delay doing anything until post Christmas, and then I would be seeing a lawyer to write up a divorce. I don't want to live the remainder of my life this way.

She said, "I understand." A few minutes later she said she does not want a divorce, and will change her ways. She then put on her coat and said she had to leave the house for a walk, where she is now, I guess.

I have taken a Xanax and drinking a beer. My hands are shaking, but I will get over this. It truthfully is not a big surprise. I had hoped it would never come, but with the return of the *****, I have to find a more peaceful life elsewhere.

This gives me a good reason to quit my job I don't like, collect my pension money, and leave the country to warmer climates where life is cheap and easy.

Thank you for listening. That is how I feel right now. I 80% expect things will be resolved by tomorrow sometime, but I am confident that if not, I can make a happy and healthy turn to a new life on my own.

Comments are welcome.