(((Medicated))) Thanks so much for this thread. Both of your posts reflect exactly how I feel & the things that I do. I understand so well what you are going through & how desperately you want things that everyone has the right to have but we "can't". It's sooo painful. I'm going to print out what you wrote & take it to my T when I finally find one! I visited this forum for that very reason, too; not knowing if my problems are due to extreme social phobia or if I have Avoidant PD. I avoid everything in life.
You wrote that your T said that you are "shooting down" her attempts to help you, & now she told you to be content with being alone. And you wrote that you really don't want to find another T, which leads me to believe that you've had this problem with a few. Do you think you are fighting getting better b/c you are scared? If that's the case, she's probably aware of it, which may be why she told you to just be content with being alone. Maybe you can approach this with her & try to work on it. However, if you truly believe that she doesn't "get" how unhappy you are, I suggest that you find a different T.
Best of luck. You can PM me anytime. Please let me know how things go.