My husband has been seeing his therapist/social worker for five years for anxiety and ro deal with childhood problems. In the past, she has blown him off at appointments and at one point at the beginning of this year, he fired her; only to go back.

My husband and I have had financial issues, he would not work but would add more bills (and stress) to me. At one point in September, he asked me if I wanted a divorce because of these issues. I told him yes, but we stayed together. We had been getting along better, he even got a job in October.

Recently, he had been spending more time on his computer and less time with me and our daughter. It was not like him. He started doing special favors for his therapist (like fixing her vehicles on his one day off a week, and even taking off of work to fix her vehicle.) I became suspicious and checked his text messages one day and found that his therapist and him were texting each other quite often. His therapist had mentioned another woman's name that I had never heard of in one the text messages and stated that she would be at her office if he wanted to stop and see her. After I read that message, I became curious, so I checked the history on his computer and found that he had been looking her up on the internet. I confronted him about this other woman and he told me that it was child psycologist that works with his therapist and he had only seen her a couple of times in passing. I believed him, but over the next two days his behavior became more bizarre, to the point he would check his email after spending "quality time" with me. So, wanting to get to the bottom of this, I checked his email, which I did not have a password too and found that his therapist was attempting to set them up at her office. I also found out that my husband was planning to leave me, not necessarily for this other woman, but just leave. His therapist also encouraged him not to help with household chores and bills.

But, in these emails I also found that he had lied to his therapist about telling me things and about money. He made it seem like I was money hungry-I am not, I just wanted help with some bills. He also told his therapist that he had told me he was leaving, when he had not, he denied he was leaving.

I am so confused, is my husband a victim of his therapist? She has done other things in the past to come between us and we have argued many times about her.

What should I do?

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