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Feb 15, 2011, 11:11 AM
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Member Since: Aug 2010
Location: Florida
Posts: 328
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All I can talk about is anger lately 
but....
a great thing that I learned just over the past two weekends....
don't get mad at someone just because they are angry with you;
don't make a person feel guilty for the anger they are feeling.
Anger is such a difficult emotion for me to deal with, wether I feel it,
or if it is directed at me. I think the most important thing I can take from it all is to understand that there is a reason behind every emotion.
Based off of that, I'm going to abandon this idea that someone is "over reacting", "being dramatic", or
"being too sensitive". From what I've learned, anger is really pain, so if I look at the anger someone else has towards me, and see it as I hurt them, I feel I will want to resolve the conflict by hearing them out.
I think the foundation of that process is to make sure the person is validated, i.e, make sure that they know that you understand why they are upset, and show a true dedication to do something about it...do your best to see that it does not happen again.
Who knows...this all just my internal work through...I feel I have so much more to leanr about anger...peeps angry at me especially, and actually I have no idea how to show anger correctly myself lol.
Definitly my next project.
Take care,
-obj
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