Sorry that this is happening Inky......talk about feeling invalidated eh?

Yes, you may be a big girl, but what's wrong with offering a little help to you in dealing with it?

Why not print out what you just posted and hand it to the person in charge? Maybe you can add to it by saying you are looking for some helpful advice on how to deal with this man? You can always quote the house rules regarding fraternization as well.

I do realize that communal living can be difficult and things slip through the cracks. Many times, workers are overworked and don't have enough time in the day to handle every persons issues.....but it only takes a moment to validate and give a bit of advice. I hope they can help you turn this around. Please don't run without giving them a chance okay?

Wishing you well!