I absolutely think that we need to tell T if they do something that bothers us. There is a lot of information in those sorts of things, and for me, it's been good practice in speaking up in real life.

I don't know if it's "okay" to "lash out". I do think the rules are a little different in therapy than in "real life", but I also think that there are ways to work through conflict without lashing out. Not to say that I haven't called T an asshole a couple of times (), because BIG BIG feelings come up in therapy and they are sometimes super hard to deal with. But when I did, I apologized, and tried to find a better way to express what I was feeling.

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