...and so she doesn't treat me as a victim.

She knows I was vicimized, but she said she doesn't understand why I have LET that 'contaiminate' the rest of my life, and why I haven't CHOSEN to keep that part 'contained'

So I was a little frustrated. I told her I felt like I was being accused and blamed for not doing better. I told her that I still felt like a helpless victim, so when she says I LET my life be contaminated, and that I could CHOOSE to accept it and move on, inside I am saying, But I can't!!!
It hurts too much!!

So I had this realization last night, and now I wonder, is it GOOD for my therapy that she doesn't see me as a victim? Because that means she will push me harder, and not let me make excuses and waste time?

Or will it be bad for my therapy, because aren't T's supposed to 'meet us where we are' and accept that and start from there....
Your thoughts?