Words can be SO powerful.

While I was telling my story, T never used the words for what happened. He let me call it whatever I needed to call it to get the story out. So, it was "the stuff that happened when I was little" or "the stuff with my mom". We have gradually begin using the actual terminology for the events, and it does shift things in my head a little bit. I guess because the words make it sound more REAL. So. I do think words have a lot of power.

If I were in your place, I think I would need a lot of clarification from T as to what he meant. I would want to understand exactly where he was coming from. Does he mean "oh my gosh, cut it out already, stop being such a victim" or does he mean "I see a woman sitting here who has the potential to be a powerful survivor". Or something else altogether?