Yes, during that session a couple weeks ago, I put my needs aside for the 2 new group members. They were talking and the group was working on integrating them into the group...and I didn't want my distress becoming figural at that moment.

...That's why I addressed it later, via the blog, and then in the next week's session....I shared more details....got that one person's feedback...no one else contributed...just silence....and then someone changed the topic and group moved on in another direction.

On the blog after last week's session, I asked the one group member about his comment to me...and wanted to clarify if his intention was to help me feel more comfortable/less embarrassed or if he was attempting to minimize the issue. He responded to other things - and didn't respond to me.

The other thing that bugs me about addressing my stuff in group is that the issue never seems to really get addressed. It starts off with a topic...then people give feedback...then there's secondary feedback about the person giving feedback...and it spins off into more about the relationships in the room rather than the issue. It's how it's supposed to work in a gestalt based group. The focus is about the relationships in the room, and it is not about fixing people's issues. So, why bother, other than to be a conversation-starter...and to see how people react to situations....