At the base of all anger is fear.......

People will do what people will do. If you look deep enough into a persons actions, you will find fear every time......fear of failing, fear of the truth, fear of abandonment, fear of judgement, fear of the inner self and so on.

So, when someone makes you their "irrational anger target" it is more likely to do with their own emotions and lack of insight in to their emotions, and they project them on to you.....It is not about you, it is about them.

Rational anger is often delivered in a more communicative way. It is "You did this and it made me really angry" and if that person respects you and you respect them, then there is room for communication. Short of that, you walk away from irrational anger. It is dangerous, unhealthy and needs to be analysed. Is there some truth in this irrational anger? What am I afraid of? What are they afraid of? When the answers are clearer, it becomes rational anger and then it is time to talk about it.

Just some observations of my own experience.....

Take good care......

Michah