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Originally Posted by Can't Stop Crying
he took the best of me to satisfy himself and now there is nothing good left. as I travel this road, that I did not choose, I'm finding more and more of me is gone. This is supposed to be part of the healing process? why does it have to hurt so much?
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CSC,
I do not know your situation, but I can glean a basic understanding from your post here.
This person did not take the best from you.....they took what was not theirs to take seeing as you were not willing to give it. The best of us ALWAYS belongs to us, UNLESS we give it freely and without compunction to others. NO-ONE can take this from you without your permission. In saying this, I am certainly not undermining the fact that he took something from you, and that is NOT your fault.
What I am trying to convey here (sorry I have a hard time getting to the point) is that something happened to you that was deeply traumatising and most likely violating. I will take a leap here and say that what he "took" from, among other things maybe, is your "spirit". The spirit is the most resilient thing we can possess. The spirit can be downtrodden and misused, dirtied and tattered, BUT the spirit always grows back to its wholeness, its natural state, and that natural state is pure and unconditional love for self....
This takes much work and healing and healing is always painful. The spirit cannot do it alone. It needs you to look within and take the time to heal. You must take the power back from this man, from this mans spirit.....for it is his unwholesome spirit that needed to take some of your wholesome spirit, if that makes sense. Imagine whatever it is that he has taken from you and visually bring it closer. It will be very painful and sad......but the more of your spirit that you bring to you, the more freedom you will have and the EMPOWERMENT you will gain.....
When the spirit is whole, forgiveness follows, and love reigns. I am not saying that there will not be sad and bad days, but you will know them for this and give your spirit a big old hug
This is not for him, but for YOU!
This is also a journey that I find myself on. I needed to forgive my mother, so I could be at peace and bring my spirit together.
You are loved most dearly, every moment of everyday. Believe me dear person, the best is yet to come. I BELIEVE it.
Take very good care of self. Look within, to the spirit. Your spirit.
Michah