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Originally Posted by TheMisunderstoodOne
I see, icecreamkid. Even though I would LOVE 2 have a relationship with a woman, the majority of them (at least in this city) have a certain prejudice against me because of false rumors and fear of the unknown. Some do talk positive about me though, but they dont really understand the reasons why I do what I do. Thats because ignorant ppl cant see past the reasons they dont understand. Instead, they make false assumptions/uneducated guesses. Then they create a whole elaborite (false) storyline based on incomplete info, appearances, and gossip. They place many labels on me, but labels limit the persons real personality and character. The worst part is gullible ppl believe the lies and judge accordingly. WTF happened 2 all the real women out there? I know I sound mad negative right now. but thats my situation right now. I guarantee they would think much differently IF they actually get to know me...
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Hi TheMisunderstoodOne, I understand your plight in a way. My boyfrind of 7 1/2 years has SZ. He`s a kind, descent guy but the symptoms of his condition do make things very hard I have to be honest. But I know there is a good person inside his heart. During the first 4 years of the relationship he went untreated for his condition and as a result did some pretty hard things to deal with. Wanted constant contact with me, paranoid I would leave him, suicidal and obsessive about what I was doing and obsessive that other women wanted to be with him which made hime look like a player. I had no idea he had sz but I though he was like bipolar or something eventually he had a major break down and he voluntarily checked into a treatment program and for the last 3 1/2 years hes been on track and complied with his mental health wellness. but he still gets delusional and worried occationally however for the last several months hes been different less involved with the relationship etc overall its been a very hard road and probably wont last but that is the reality for some people NOT ALL people my personality is probably not condusive to being with him. but for anyone, personality compatibility is the key. there are women out there who are able to deal with the ups and downs of being with a mentally ill guy. but also you have a responsibility to help educate people about your condition so they will understand no one automatically knows what sz is and how to deal with it. its not the ennd of the world if someone has it but both partners need to work as a team to help take care of the condition togethher