No one can make you feel (any emotion) unless you let them. I know its hard to accept and difficult to control, but it's true.

hey there; for some reason, that comment stirs a crapload of anger inside me; (not at you lol, at the idea. I know you say it's hard to accept...but....)

I feel like thats kinda a "bury your head in the sand" type of deal...if someone says something, and it hits you, or triggers you, then it does. There is no denying that. I don't think we can change what we intially feel, pain is pain...but I do think one can eventually control how they react;

I don't think that's what you mean at all....I have a hatred for cognitive psychology, so bad (although I use it myself sometimes...just no freakin affirmations lol)...it's the most invalidating thing in the world. Duh the thoughts are irrational,
I know that...now why do I have them? I donno, psychodynamics....no one tells me that I'm thinking wrong, behaving wrong...all they do is listen and hold my anger, let me vent...cog/behav is so freakin' pushy, that's all I've known my whole damn life.

Where....did that come from?

Don't pay any attention to me here...it's not cognitive psychology, or what you said...it's just anger at past things done to me.
Maybe I am angry all the time lol.

Thanks for the encouragement though...I really did appreciate your post. It's so funny, everytime I think I'm doing better, I usually go backwards. I ended up skipping my last session with my T...
it was gonna be week 3 of venting, I always felt so good after I got outta there.

I think what you're saying would make sense, but it clashes with what I feel I'm craving or something. Lol, I fight with my T all the time because he's cog/behav..yelling at him then leads to me yelling at my parents...so I swear this anger goes where it belongs eventually. Sorry if this offended you, something about that comment just really threw me off...worked out, I got a rant outta it!

Thanks,
-obj