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Old Feb 16, 2011, 06:39 AM
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Originally Posted by Squiggle328 View Post
That really baffles me. I cannot imagine a therapist saying that and actually thinking it would help you? I would feel like he/she were blaming me for not being able to suck it up and move on! If we could suck it up and move on, therapists may just be out of a job!
My therapist is a great therapist, with a lot of experience treating trauma and abuse cases. He's helped me in my recovery more than I can describe. I have no idea how I forrest gumped my way to him.

I called him midweek one time in a total crisis. He actually DID tell me that I would just have to suck it up, do what I needed to do and it would be okay.

I was soooo angry. BUT, much to my chagrin, he was right. Sometimes learning to "fake it until you make it" is a valuable skill to develop as a short term patch up.

As a long term fix, well, you can't suck it up and fake it forever.
Thanks for this!
darkrunner