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Old Feb 16, 2011, 08:49 AM
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Originally Posted by krazy_phoenix View Post
hello Peaches,
Just thought I'd let you know that I too am working on DBT Emotion Regulation w my T at present. I too 'ignore' any child/like parts rather than be open and nurturing. Its only been a month since I even acknowledged their existence, 2 yrs after dx. I guess we can't rush these things! Just wanted to let you know you're not alone, and to keep on keeping on.

kp

Hi Krazy Phoenix,

Thanks for letting me know you're working on the same thing i am. Are you going through the green DBT book or the Linehan book? We're going through the green workwook.

I wonder why we want to ignore our child-like parts??? I have thought about it alot and all i can figure out is that (1) i am very ashamed and embarrassed of how needy those parts are and (2) my mom ignored me when i was hurting and needy as a kid. So i think i have internalized that, and now i want to ignore myself when i am hurting. It feels like the "right" thing to do because as an adult, i have this position that i should not have a part inside that feels scared and little and wants to be comforted.

Have you figured out why you ignore your child-like parts?