Hi Hunny,

I am glad that you are finding ways to work with and communicate with your little parts. I have talked to mine alot and have used soothing words at times. But it feels artificial to me, and i don't know why. In my last session, we did a visualization where i pictured the adult me rescuing the hurting child from the past from an abusive situation. But after doing it, i did not feel any relief. What do you think is causing this? I think that i felt proud that i had taken the child's hand and led her out of the bad situation into a safe room. But once i got there, i felt overwhelmed and even scared, like "What do i do with her now?" I remember that i cried because i felt like i was being saddled with taking care of a little girl and i did not feel confident that i knew how. i felt little and scared myself. Does this make any sense to you? So something is wrong because i am trying to perform these "rescue operations" by doing this healing work with the hurt child parts but it is not feeling soothing. I am not sure what is wrong.

As far as how the hurt child felt being led out of the abusive situation, she went readily with the adult out of the situation and into the safe room, but she didn't feel much of anything. Like i did not feel a comforting soothing feeling in my body the way that i have felt a couple of times when my t spoke comforting words to the child part or held my hand during the trauma work.

Would it be a bad idea when my t and i are doing this work to ask her to help soothe the hurt part? Or should i just keep plugging along trying to do it myself, even if it doesn't feel good inside?