I can certainly understand that.

I agree. writing it down and then destroying it - ripping it into tiny bits, burning it, scribbling all over it with a big red or black marker - can really help. it can help release some of that emotion and maybe even release some of it's power. just make sure that when you do it, you have some time to yourself. some down time with some self-soothing helps at the ready.

I have even been known to sit in my room by myself and imagine that person there and just talk to them out loud. I know it may sound strange but, for me, it can really help me to process things if I play them out.