Background:
I have 2 sisters. Sister A's husband molested me for 7 years of my childhood. Sister B hosts the pedophile in her house.
I confronted my BIL (brother in law), and he denied it. But now he won't stop sending abusive texts. Till yesterday, I was trying not to be bugged by it. But today it REALLY bothered me because:
Sister B is hosting the pedophile in her house, her reasons to host him kept changing from:
1. she has to be nice to him so she can visit their house,
2. she said she can't be mean to him because then Sister A woud not like it.
3. Now, she said she has to host him because she wants him to confess what he did.
I felt she's making too many excuses. IMO, why would you keep someone who is a pedophile in your house? And secondly, HOW IS THIS YOUR PLACE TO "make" HIM CONFESS? its not your personal issue, ask MY permission for it first! (not sure I'f i'm demanding too much???, please answer??)
She gave him a chance to speak, and he's said so many things about me. Saying that I'm lying and I had an affair with him, etc. He also told all the sexual details which I didn't reveal to anyone because I don't want to relive it.
SisterB came over and would smilingly ask what he did, is it true? (I had already told her he molested me), she wanted to know how we did it,etc. then she'd laugh. then she'd say "well he's gonna take you to court so you must be prepared what to say why you didn't say it earlier?". I told her i didn't want to talk about all this and don't ask me questions. She kept pressuring me saying, WELL THE LAWYERS WILL ASK YOU!
What LAWYER? if theres any lawyer it should be when I put a case on him. He can't put any case on me.
She also told me he can do anything coz he has power, etc.. (I'm not living in US right now)
His abusive texts to me overall and my sisters acts and attitudes towards this whole situation has really messed with my head today. i'm very furious and hurt and there's lots of pain in me. Bodily sensations from the trauma are back too.
What do I do? How do I deal with this???
I'm also mad at my sister that she gave him a chance to talk and he was abusing me and everything, she came and told me all that. I would expect her to be a little more sensitive about the issue and not laughingly say things.
PLEASE HELP! :'(
PS: A few years back, SisterB was also the only person I had revealed this to at that time, when I had the courage. And she shut me down by saing dont ever tell anyone this, no one will believe you.
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