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Feb 16, 2011, 03:28 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi ~ Actually you're enabling her. You're keeping her from taking responsibility for her own actions. If you would go to Al-Anon, you would find out how to STOP from doing these things, and they will help you to stop. They can show you how to live with an alcoholic relative - how to stop enabling them and to live your own life without falling victim to their disease.
You don't "owe" her anything. She HAS used you - and if you stopped doing ALL these things today, you shouldn't feel guilty about it!!! She is all grown up now and wears big girl pants ~ it's time she started ACTING like it. She may struggle for awhile, but it won't take long before she figures out that she's got to start acting like an adult!!
Live your own life sweetie. You've got it coming. Be happy - and don't feel guilty. God bless. Hugs, Lee 
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