Hi Rose3,

What is in your heart? How do you feel about their loss?

Whatever it is, THAT is what you say.

I know that when I lost someone that was very, very dear to me, I always appreciated the comments that I knew were genuine and coming from those peoples hearts. REGARDLESS of what they said, it was THOSE people that touched me the most. I could also tell who was simply voicing meaningless platitudes. I always felt that those people came out of social obligation instead of because they really felt my loss and were there for me.

So, be true to your heart. If you have little feelings about their loss, that ok. But be real and don't try to be something you aren't or feel something you don't.