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Originally Posted by objtrbit
...Based off of that, I'm going to abandon this idea that someone is "over reacting", "being dramatic", or
"being too sensitive". From what I've learned, anger is really pain, so if I look at the anger someone else has towards me, and see it as I hurt them, I feel I will want to resolve the conflict by hearing them out.
I think the foundation of that process is to make sure the person is validated, i.e, make sure that they know that you understand why they are upset, and show a true dedication to do something about it...do your best to see that it does not happen again. ...
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Well-said.
I struggle with anger and the stigma that accompanies it. That stigma ("anger is an unhealthy emotion", "you shouldn't feel angry", "anger is a sin") is pure bologna!
Through counseling I learned that it's how you express anger that is vital to one's mental health.
Anger itself is a blessing! Without anger, for example, I wouldn't have the drive to become so fed up with feeling so violated as a human being.
We need our anger! But we also need to learn to express it in a 'healthy' manner!