Hi all. I am glad to have found this place! I have been with my therapist for 6 years. She started working with my husband and I in 2003 after he suffered a stroke. He was young and healthy and the best man in the world. He recovered fine physically, but we worked with this therapist for his self esteem and my stress over it all. The 3 of us were quite close, she helped us so much! When he died suddenly in Nov of 2004 she met me at the hospital and we sat with him for hours. She has kept me going, helped me very much. She is this beautiful woman, long hair, works out, etc,., very active. She had a baby in October (he is beautiful). When we resumed therapy after her Maternity leave I was startled to see she had cut a lot off of her hair! A few weeks later it got shorter and went from blond to dark. She doesn't wear the same "feminine" type clothes and seems more "formal" in session. She has always helped me through changes, like when she moved offices, or changed secretaries. But this change was the most important one I needed prep for. I don't know why she didn't prepare me for this change, it feels like she died. I want to ask why she has changed her persona and I wonder where her former self went and why? I feel grieved, I want the old doctor back-or at least part of her. How do I talk with her about this? What do I ask? Should I just ignore it? It has floored me and I wonder why this happened. Help me out please! It has been hard to connect. I want to be honest...