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Feb 17, 2011, 07:17 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Bless your heart ~ It almost sounds like you're trying to trip your familys' land-mines for them. You can't do that. You've got to let them live their own lives, and make their own mistakes and reap their own consequences. Do not enable them by bailing them out of situations that they get themselves in, even if it's just moral support!! You only have just so much strength!!! 
All too often, we take on our family's pain ~ when something goes wrong, or someone gets into trouble ~ there we are, right in the middle of it trying to alleviate things so that no one has to suffer. But what about US???
I'm positive that you're a very kind, loving person and you give of yourself freely. TOO freely ~ and I right? The trouble is you don't leave yourself anything.  You're bankrupt when YOU need something. And if your child pulls on you besides, good grief ~ you'll fall apart.
Leave everyone else alone, and let them take care of their own problems. You will be doing them a favor -- maybe they'll finally grow up.  They may not like it initially, but oh well. They will thank you later. As for your own child, guide him/her but don't do it for them. It's up to THEM to take care of things if they're adults (or teenagers for that matter!). Give yourself the attention you deserve. God bless. Hugs, Lee
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