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Originally Posted by velcro003
yes!! i intellecutialize everrryyyttthiiinngg. I want to know WHY i am feeling that way!! Which totally does impede on the actual feeling, which I like  It is a slowwww process, but I am gradually allowing some feelings to be felt in the therapy room. It is hard and painful, but I do believe it is working. |
I relate! I love to intellectualize.....and I realize I do it because it removes me from the actual depth and intensity of my emotions/feelings and helps me have control (and I like to be in control, too
). It's a coping mechanism, not always a bad one, but if it's keeping me from truly dealing with emotions I need to deal with, that's not good.....so I too am trying to learn how to just let the feelings be, to feel them, to let them show, and then be able to let them go....