sunrise, in the past, a couple Ts had me write letters to my mother and then write letters back to me as to how I wished she would have responded. I read those letters to my current T but I couldn't access the feelings. So, I've grieved some for my mother, but the hurt is for more than her death. That's so true that I can't grieve when I'm there because T makes me happy! When I come home and email her, the feelings come out.

I intellectualize too much. That's the first thing my new T told me a year ago! IFS has taught me to feel, but it's a slow process.

Poet and velcro, I'm with you about it. Intellectualizing keeps me from feeling the feelings. It keeps me safe. This is the first T I've been able to start to "let go" with. It's very scary for me.