Thanks for explaining more ((Distressed2010)). Even a confrontation letter wouldn't be a good idea. In your mind you think it would be good, but you need to understand he doesn't think like you or me. In reality, he has abused and manipulated you and your sister for years - he' the one in control and he's not about to give it up by reading a letter, regardless of how well it's written. The best thing to do is, ignore him and block his contact with you but do let your sister know he's harassing you. You know those fish in the sea called a 'Puffer Fish" - they puff up as their defense - that's what he's doing ATM. He wants all the women in his life to back off so he can be in control again. Tell your sister he's intimidating you and make it clear to her, you're not afraid. Praying for strength.