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Originally Posted by lynn P.
Thanks for explaining more ((Distressed2010)). Even a confrontation letter wouldn't be a good idea. In your mind you think it would be good, but you need to understand he doesn't think like you or me. In reality, he has abused and manipulated you and your sister for years - he' the one in control and he's not about to give it up by reading a letter, regardless of how well it's written. The best thing to do is, ignore him and block his contact with you but do let your sister know he's harassing you. You know those fish in the sea called a 'Puffer Fish" - they puff up as their defense - that's what he's doing ATM. He wants all the women in his life to back off so he can be in control again. Tell your sister he's intimidating you and make it clear to her, you're not afraid. Praying for strength.  |
Thanks Lynn! Btw, your poofy fish example made me laugh
thanks for that.
Just wanted to say in the forum what i said to you in PM that telling my sister that he's abusing me wont do anything. Infact i'e already told her, she said he will do this because this is what he does and she told me to ignore it.
But it still bothers me because it sticks in my head. When i say this to her she says "oh are you afraid? " but i'm not afraid, i'm just angry!!!
I get afraid when my OTHER sister tells me oh he's gonna ruin you, that's what he says .. what if he does this to you, what if she does that to you. STOP PUTTING FEAR IN MY HEAD! then i get more angry because instead of comforting me, she's making me fear him and return to my shell.
She's the same sister that, years ago when I told her what he did, she told me never to tell anyone coz no one would beleive me. She also told me, " He tried to do this with me too, but I was smart, I didn't give in". that made me feel like crap at that time!
And when I told her the other day, stop putting me fear in my head and doing what if's, she accused me of being overconfident. If I'm trying to console myself and telling myself dont' be scared, how is this overconfident???