sending the letter will not sting him anywhere because he simply doesn't care. he will not feel shame because he is incapable of it. he wouldn't know shame if it bit him in his pompous ***.

maybe staple a picture of him to the letter and burn it. yes, i know it would be more satisfying to spit in the face of your abuser and call him out for what he is. but you've already done that and doing it again will only yield the same results that you've already yielded. nothing but more anger and frustration for you. sometimes we have to simply say 'i'm done with this' and accept that we can't 'show them' anything. does that make sense? you're going to keep going in circles and potentially perpetuating abuse from him if you keep trying to let him know you're angry and see he's an idiot. he knows that. he just simply doesn't care. if he cared what you thought or how you felt, he'd never have done what he did in the first place.

anyway. if you keep the letter around, you'll probably end up waving it in his face. and that won't do you ANY good. it will likely hurt you more though. so why bother inflicting more trouble on yourself?

you can not FIX him. there is nothing you can do but turn and walk the other way. if you can't do it today, your best bet would be to stand your ground, ignore him, and wait patiently for the day you can get the heck out of there.

I like Lynn's puffer fish too. that is exactly what he's doing.