I have contact with my parents and one of my brothers. my oldest brother and his family I do not have contact with.

the brother I do have contact with was physically abusive. we don't really 'talk', but we see each other when we both visit my parents and my parents and his wife and kids occasionally come visit us. he has not. his wife and i get along very well.

my oldest brother sexually abused me. i opened up about this a few years ago and my sister in law found out. she and my brother discussed it with my parents without saying anything to me and my mother later confronted me demanding details of what happened. i was unable to give her what she wanted and said i would no longer discuss it with any of them. it is now just another elephant in the room between us. i have not spoken to my brother since we moved out of state 4 years ago. my sister in law and i have not spoken since she recommended i 'call my brother and discuss the matter with him'. it's been nearly 3 years.

things are a bit awkward with my parents, but mostly for me.. and not nearly as awkward as they were for me around my oldest brother before we moved out of state. we all attended the same church and saw each other every Sunday and our kids were in the same Sunday school classes.. still, I've never had a 'real' relationship with either of my brothers. just superficial. I only had a brief relationship with my parents where I actually felt like I trusted them and could talk to them about things in my life.. but that's done now. I maintain contact with them because they are good grand parents.