I don't think it's rude at all to ask (obviously, since I asked!). But I understand that I can ask T anything and she has a right to respond or not respond.

Also, I think if it's a triggering issue, then it should be discussed in therapy and not avoided.

With my old T, it was REALLY hard for me to picture her being so loving with other clients. But she asked me to think about my kids and the unique relationship I have with each of them and try to remember that it's similar with Ts.

She said to me, "you are NOT just an appt slot in my day, G. You are G, and there is no one else in the universe like you. I look forward to seeing you every single time."

That helped