That is so powerful. I think it's great that you wrote all those words, tree.

I have to admit my stomach sank as I read this, because I have not yet accepted the correct words for what happened to me either.

I had a phone call with old T last week, and she is always very careful to avoid those triggering words. But she said at one point, "I'm sorry. There's no other way to say this, but you were parentified....you're one of the most parentified (adult) children I've ever seen."

It was sort of funny, because I had to go look up what parentified meant...and then it made me sad to read.