Bingo. Baby steps. Most of us can no longer leap tall buildings in a single stride. If you can learn to take pride in small accomplishments you have gone a long way toward coping. Trying to do more than we are able is a recipe for failure and for crushing our self-esteem. Better to set lower hurdles and clear them. It's worked for me. Hardest part was continually lowering expectations of myself until they more or less aligned with what I am able to accomplish.
It's also important that we not beat ourselves up when we don't manage to clear the small hurdles - that will happen. Life goes on. That was then, this is now. What matters is how you are doing in the present moment.
85 sounds pretty good to me. Keep up the good work.
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If the world seems cold to you, kindle fires to warm it - Lucy Larcom
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