the books are on grieving and I like both but I just started reading both...surviving grief and learning to live again by Dr. Catherine M. Sanders, and...the courage to grieve by judy tatelbaum. Again so far both have been very good for me as I never understood "grief" as a 9 year old and didnt receive much guidance then or later instead I just shut down and stopped feeling altogether. So 20 years later when my sister comes up for me I am still that 9 year old waiting for her to come home.