My Father was a vicious N. always called us kids 'stupid'. He passed away in '06 and the 30 days I had to spend taking care of him was hell. You would think at the end of life one would want to mend bridges and make amends. He was mean and awful to me.

And guess who is now in charge of his estate and his precious money and my mom - the enabler of the N. ...? Me.

I am 48 and therapy is smacking me in the face with the reality that my Mom is just as much to blame for my neglect and emotional abuse. Uncovering some unsettling events. My Brother has mostly blocked out his childhood, but I remember. Other 2 siblings are having problems too, but not dealing with them.

J, some similarities here I see. Sorry for my lack of detail but I am in semi-crisis mode and am just hanging on... More thru PM, ok?

VoN