I was married to an emotional abuser. It got to the point I didn't even have my own thoughts. I felt like the dumbest ugliest most annoying woman alive. I feared to make any kind of mistake because he would just lay into me saying how he knew I would mess up and this kind of stuff always happens when I do things. If he messed up well it's my fault for not helping him with it.

My mom is borderline with the emotional abuse. I think alot of it comes from her upbringing of women should be quiet and submissive. She trys to control with guilt and playing the martyr. In her day women didn't openly control the house. It was hurtful when I told her about my husband's emotional abuse she basically shrugged it off as if it wasn't real. That hurt. We have grown apart a bit because I do things in my life she doesnt' approve of and still tries to control me with guilt. I know parents aren't perfect. I just wish she would admit she wasn't perfect and maybe did a few wrong things over the years.

I hope your situation gets better. Moving out is always a good option when it's available. hopefully you have a safe place to get away when things get too bad. I had a friend growing up who's family was like the neighborhood family. They were always good for a dinner and advice.