I was never able to balance real life and game, and had to quit games to reclaim life, but I know of people who say they can indeed balance the two. What helped me some, was an attitude shift.

When I saw the stuff as something I had to do before I could play, I was doing it badly, and resentfully.

I talked to myself for a while how these non-game things REALLY matter to me in the long run, how they are important and worthy. With that in mind I tried to derive a sense of satisfaction from having them done, and done well. It was important to pause a moment when done, not just rush into the game, to give myself a little appreciation.

Dunno if it will help you.

Oh, and if you get sucked into a evil time devourer like Evony, just quit. After you realize you "can't" take time to sleep anymore with that game, it's rather obvious.