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Feb 18, 2011, 01:11 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi ~ I think sometimes we push people away because we don't want to hurt them. For some reason we think that our "condition" is going to in some way damage them -- or by our being depressed, it's going to make them so concerned for us that they will be too worried and it will hurt. Does that make sense?
There were some things in my past that I didn't even tell my late husband because i didn't want him to pity me or feel sorry for me, or have him feel the hurt that I felt. So I just didn't tell him.  That probably was NOT the right way to handle it -- but i was trying to "protect" him -- and he didn't need protecting.
Perhaps you're doing the same with your girl?? Believe me, she doesn't need protecting either. If you two are going to have an open & honest relationship, share your hurts with her. don't shut her out. That's the WORST thing you can do.
I wish you the very best. Take care of YOU -- and your girl. Hugs, Lee
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