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Originally Posted by bloom3
sorry this happened to you. yeah, i'd delete him from facebook. he sounds like trouble and was definitely trying to see if you'd have sex with him when he asked you questions about casual sex and your needs. maybe try to come up with some phrases that you can have handy for when people say intrusive things. like, "i'm really not comfortable talking about that", "that's kind of a personal question", etc.  |
Thanks Bloom.
The issue is that:
1. most times i dont know what personal questions are. Also, I noticed in my past i revealed info about myself that was personal, thinking i was being friendly.. but later realized i shouldnt have.
A lot of times in the past, I've found myself in situations where I just ask myself "how did i get here????"
2. So at first, i did feel uncomfortable, but i wasn't sure if it was personal question. Also, I think i was in my head feeling insulted that I had been asked this, so to shut him up I wanted to tell him that i found it disgusting and that should send the message across clearly, because then he'd feel ashamed of asking me this.. or would feel judged.. because he was sitting there judging me.
3. Also, he was asking it so indirectly that I wasn't sure what he was asking.. his question was like "So, you dont have a bf, then?' and i was like "then, what? what do you mean? what exactly are you asking me?"
Don't know why if its me or there are more like me out there, but i just don't get the hint until someone asks me DIRECTLY in clear words what they're trying to ask, beating around bushes confuses me! so i sit there in my own confusion trying to figure out what he's trying to say and at the same time what I'm feeling, and at the same time how should i set a boundry without being rude? and at the same time "its night time and he's my ride home, don't want to be too rude either" Its not like US where i could cab safely.